Best Friends Forever (BFF’s) a term which only came about in 1996 and added to the dictionary in 2010 has become a common description for good friends. A BFF is typically a person’s best friend and the two individuals have been close friends because of shared experiences like growing up together, attending high school or college together. The bond between BFF’s is supposed to be a friendship that lasts forever and stands the test of time. People can have more than one BFF, and the term is more often used on social media outlets such as Facebook or Snapchat.
Friends, we all have them. The average American claims to have on average about nine close friends. When I think of my own friends, I can count the number of people on two hands that I have as close friends other than my sisters. I have one or two that live close by but most of them are long distance. We don’t talk all the time, but I know they are there when I need them and can call on them for anything. Ralph Waldo Emerson was quoted as saying, “The only way to have a friend is to be one.”
When it comes to electronic friends, are they really friends? According to my Facebook page, I have over 500 friends. On LinkedIn I have over 1,000 followers. According to my Twitter page, I have over 7,000 followers. However, according to experts the individuals you connect with in cyberspace are not the ones that have the greatest impact on your happiness.
According to Dr. Debra Umberson, a sociologist at the University of Texas, Austin “Strong social relationships support mental health, and that ties into better immune function, reduces stress and less cardiovascular activation. In other words, having meaningful friendships is good for your health. Even the Bible covers the benefits of having friends. Ecclesiastes 4:10 (CEV) reads, “If you fall, your friend can help you up. But if you fall without having a friend nearby, you are really in trouble.” Friends are a gift from God and are important to our wellbeing.
Most recently when I was experiencing a family emergency, I had an opportunity to learn the true value of friendship. My sister was in the hospital for over 35 days with most of them spent in intensive care. For over a month I sat at her bedside praying for her and waiting on improvement which came in very small increments. Once most of my friends learned of her illness, they didn’t hesitate to contact me by telephone or text to let me know they were praying for me. They all asked what they could do and checked with me often to make sure I was okay. I had the assurance and knew they were praying for me night and day.
One of my friends, my BFF that I grew up with went above and beyond the call of duty. She saw one of my sister’s Facebook posts and called me immediately to find out how she could help. She started out by driving my baby sister from Texas when she was too tired to drive herself after abruptly ending her vacation and arriving home late. After driving my baby sister down, my friend sat with us in the ICU waiting room several days before returning home.
After she got home she found it hard to resume her life knowing how serious my sister’s situation was. My younger sister and I were trying to coordinate our schedules so that one of us could be with her every day while my other sister cared for our Dad. My friend called and asked to be included in the rotation to sit at the hospital. I had been away for home almost two weeks and she was willing to cover me for a few days while I returned home to work and my husband. Before I left to go home for a few days, my friend accompanied me to the hospital every day and learned the routine of caring for our sister including massaging her feet a couple of times a day. During the days I was there she sometimes beat me to the hospital and was always on her post.
Intensive care was a quiet place and we sat from morning until night observing any changes in my sister’s health. My friend didn’t have to say a lot, just being there made all the difference in the world. I sat and worked on my computer and waited for the doctors to come in and out with test results and next steps. My friend sat quietly and worked on her computer as well. We worked in silence occasionally reminiscing about the old days. When I had to step out of the room, she was there taking care of my sister. She ended up staying in town until the day my sister moved to rehab.
Proverbs 18:24 (CEV) says, “Some friends don’t help but a true friend is closer than your own family.” I am thankful to my friend who stepped up to become of my sisters in our time of need. There was no way I could repay her for what she did for our family so I wanted to put it in writing. I tried as many ways to thank her that I could think of but she just reminded me of the song Dionne Warwick sang back in the day, “That’s What Friends are For.” Aundrea, I’m just letting you know that my sisters and I are forever grateful to you for your unselfishness in our time of need. You have truly shown yourself to be there not only in good times but in bad times. Thanks for being a true BFF!
Everyone has friends but they are never the same as your best friends. We call them "Besties" or "BFF" (Best Friends Forever). You may not get an opportunity to spend alot of time with them, but when you do get together you pick up right where you left off. The good thing about being with your best friends is that you can let your hair down and just be yourself, they accept you just the way you are, even on bad hair days. I don't have alot of friends, so I really appreciate the ones I have.
Now that the weather is warming up, get together with your "bestie" and have lunch or coffee. Spend some time catching up and sharing with one another. Learn something new, share an old memory, get and provide support to one another. Whatever you do have some fun and laugh as loud and as long as you want to. If they are not in close proximity, give them a call.
So you know what this means BFF's, you should be hearing from me real soon.
Janice R Love, Author
First Lady, Mom, Stepmom and Divorce Ministry Coach