Living in a stepfamily means eventually having step-grandchildren. When I first married my husband, he already had one grandson, so I instantly became a grandmother. When we finally had the chance to meet, his mother introduced me as his grandmother. As I attempted to take on a grandmother role, I realized that our grandson already had three grandmothers who were a part of his life. In addition, he had three grandfathers. Boy, I bet he was good and confused.
Children used to have two sets of grandparents, but now due to divorce and remarriage and children being born out of wedlock, children can have numerous grandparents. If you add in the next generation which would be our parents, the number goes up even more.
Last year two of my husband’s children got married and we added three additional grandchildren to our family. Next year, we gain a new granddaughter. Because our new grandchildren live out of state, we haven’t had the opportunity to get to know them. In fact they may not even recognize us as their grandparents because they only met us once at the wedding. We will have to make an extra effort to get to know them.
In the midst of helping children to adjust to stepfamily life, grandparents can play a positive role in helping children to transition. Grandparents are often great at building family unity can provide some stability to a complicated situation. Grandparents are vital in children’s lives. Since my parents lived out of state, my husband’s parents stood in the gap for us. Here are five ways to be great Step grandparents:
Janice R Love, Author
First Lady, Mom, Stepmom and Divorce Ministry Coach