On last monday while watching the presidential inauguration, I heard the announcer refer to Dr. Jill Biden as the "Second Lady." In all my life even as the First Lady of a church, I have never heard anyone officially named the "Second Lady." I did some research and found that it is an informal title given to the wife of the Vice President of the United States. Okay, I learned something new today.
Not long after my husband and I married, the church assigned me a wonderful parking space right next to his assigned space. They placed a lovely parking sign in front of it which read "First Lady". Just like my husband Pastor, I had my very own parking space at the church. The funniest thing happened when my stepdaughter read the sign for the first time. She immediately asked her dad why it read "First Lady" instead of "Second Lady". She kindly informed him that her biological mom was the first lady and I was the second. I laughed when I realized that the question was innocent and not intended to harm.
Truth is, our children and stepchildren will use whatever words and descriptions to try and explain what is going on in their lives when families are living-in-step. Yes, there are times when some words are intended to harm, but don't automatically assume you are being attacked. Don't take offense at every slightly uncomfortable statement. Look at the heart and pick your battles.
By the way, did you know that our Second Lady is the first second lady to hold a paying job while her husband is Vice-President of the United States?
The Inaugural events were extra special this time around, not only was Barack re-elected, but we really had an opportunity to see the love shared in the Obama family. Starting with the President and First Lady, I actually saw him kiss her more times during the day's events than he did four years ago. They were able to be themselves and appeared to really enjoy being together. They smiled a lot more, they engaged with each other and with the girls and weren't worried about others seeing their interactions.
However, this dance says it all. He sang along with Jennifer Hudson as she sang "Let's Stay Together." It was such a romantic moment. He san, she smiled and laughed and once again they kissed a couple of time. Even though the world was watching, they were in thier own little world. Obama's, I'm not mad at you. Continue to show your love and affection for one another, no matter who is watching.
When was the last time that you danced with your spouse? A few years ago, to celebrate a milestone birthday, I convinced my husband to learn the tango and dance with me infront of 100 guests. I must admit learning to dance the tango was outrageously fun and romantic. Even though he was recovering from a broken toe, he pulled it off because I asked him to. That's what love does. We enjoyed dancing together so much that during our recent cruise, we learned the Salsa, Cha-Cha and the Meringue. We were the hottest and best dancing couple on the entire boat. Anyway, I said all that to say, let's take a tip from the First Family and show some LOVE.
It is official. My book will be released on Tuesday, January 29, 2013. After we returned from vacationing in the Bahamas to celebrate our 10th anniversary, we came home happy, but weary travelers. My husband checked the mail and found the proof copy of my book.
I was so excited I was scared to open it. Once I opened it and my husband took pictures, we both sat staring at it for several hours. I can't describe the feeling of holding 5 years of blood, sweat and tears in my hands. We praised God and just continued to look at it and read it aloud.
My husband was just as thrilled as I was. It was like giving birth, he said. We even put the baby to bed with us that night.
My publisher, Dr. A'ndrea J. Wilson is the best. She posted on her website that she felt like a proud grandma. I am so thankful for her insight and the opportunity.
Day two, I couldn't stop staring at it and continued to float on cloud nine.
Now the real work begins, as I share my work with others. If you haven't already. Go to stepwithlove.org and order your copy.
Blessings to all.
My husband and I just celebrated our 10th anniversary!! It wasn't easy but with God all things are possible.
We celebrated by spending the day on the plaza and we are packing up to head to the the Bahamas for a cruise.
Build Couple Strength by spending time together and celebrating occasions that are special to you.
Don't stress when your children don't wish you a happy anniversary. Remember it is your special day not theirs.
I am looking forward to many more years. I love this man!
Janice R Love, Author
First Lady, Mom, Stepmom and Divorce Ministry Coach