Holidays are great for families, but there are many people who for whatever reason may find themselves alone for the holidays. We just realized that our youngest son who just left for the marines will have to spend his birthday, Thanksgiving and Christmas without anyone in our family this year.
I remember when I was single due to divorce. I was used to being alone and actually enjoyed having my privacy and alone time. However, there was something about the holidays that caused me to feel lonely. You begin to have flashbacks about what the holiday used to be like or you hear of the holiday plans of other families and now your plans to be alone sounds depressing and lonely. Sometimes we even get nostalgic wishing we had not made the changes in our lives because of the holiday blues of being alone.
When you really think about it, we are really talking about Thanksgiving Day, Christmas Day and maybe New Year’s Eve/Day. Three little measly days, that will come and go before you know it. So, what can you do to handle your concerns about being alone during the holidays? Here are some suggestions that may help you.
Yes, being alone during the holidays can be tough and lonely. But remember, loneliness is a state of mind. Many times we feel lonely because we have set unrealistic expectations. Don’t add additional stress to your life by having impossible expectations about what the holiday should be. Focus on the things that you can control and most of all, don’t expect others to bring you happiness for the holidays.
Hopefully you have found something that will work for you. If not, remember, “This too shall pass.” Focus your mind on the real reason for the season, keep your head up and before you know it, it’s a brand new year! Happy Holidays!
Janice R Love, Author
First Lady, Mom, Stepmom and Divorce Ministry Coach