When I was young and wanted something really bad, I used to cross my fingers. I had no idea why I crossed my fingers, I guess I learned it from my sisters or my friends. Sometimes it worked and sometimes it didn’t, but when I didn’t want to take any chances, I crossed them. We may have even made requests of others to keep their fingers crossed. Think about it, how many times have you used the term?
The other reason I have seen individuals cross their fingers is when they are telling a lie or want to invalidate a promise. When telling a lie, individuals will hide their crossed fingers behind their back. Perhaps you have said something you really didn’t mean and protected yourself by keeping your fingers crossed.
So where did the crossing of the fingers come from and should Christians be in the habit of crossing their fingers? Should we be hoping for luck or telling little white lies? I did a little research and what I discovered will have you crossing your fingers more often. Actually, the early Christians crossed their fingers to symbolize the Christian cross to protect themselves from evil. Because Christians felt the cross had power, the crossing of the fingers symbolized the cross to ward off evil. Early Christians also crossed their fingers whenever someone coughed or sneezed, once again to protect themselves from the evil coming out of others. In those days and times there were many plagues as there are diseases today. Sounds like I need to keep my fingers crossed when I am around sick people.
There was one more reason why the early Christians crossed their fingers. During times of persecution, believers didn’t know who to trust. In order to recognize one another they crossed their fingers as a symbol of the cross to recognize whose side they were on. Maybe that’s why we as members of Greek fraternities and sororities, use signs to recognize one another.
Now that we know where the practice of crossing fingers comes from, perhaps we should use the symbol for its original meaning. Back to my original question... Does your marriage need help? Perhaps you should keep your fingers crossed. Satan is attempting to destroy marriage and divine intervention and the symbol of the cross is our only mode of protection. Marriage is divinely ordained and we should do all we can to protect our marriages from those who desire to destroy them. The Bible states in Mark 10:9 (NIV) “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” As marriages are in trouble across the nation we must invoke God’s protection against all of the evils attempting to destroy God’s people. Satan knows if he can destroy families, then he can destroy communities. We must take a stand to seek his help to have strong families and marriages.
How can we protect our marriages from evil? Here are three scriptures that we can use against the evils that attempt to destroy couples.
1. "Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins."- 1 Peter 4:8"
2. Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." - Ecclesiastes 4:12
3. "Be completely humble and gentle; Be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the spirit through the bond of peace."- Ephesians 4:2-3
Don’t forget to keep your fingers crossed.
Janice R Love, Author
First Lady, Mom, Stepmom and Divorce Ministry Coach