In both cases, we had less than a year to prepare. The short notice of the wedding plans was a concern, but more importantly we didn't have much time to make sure they were making decisions that were right for them. Most of our uneasiness was due to the fact we had not been able to spend a significant amount of time observing them as a couple. Watching a couple interact tells you a lot about the relationship, With both of them being involved in long distance courtships, we had a limited amount of time to observe them interacting with one another.
Over the weekend, my husband and I spoke at a pre-marital seminar. As we interacted with and observed many of the couples, we noticed different body language in the younger couples. Many of them were cuddled up together with no air or space between them. Couples our age or older seemed to be more comfortable with some space between them. Other behaviors observed between couples of all ages included:
1. They couldn't stop smiling at one another. In fact, they smiled about everything.
2. They were having some difficulty concentrating on what was being said. I saw some daydreaming going on.
3. In conversations they couldn't stop talking about the other person.
4. Eye contact between the couple was constant. While sitting, the couples were angled towards one another.
5. They shared private jokes and seemed to be in their own little world when they had the opportunity to interact without interruption.
Do you remember they days when you exhibited this type of behavior? Is the giddy type of young love still there? I know the issues of life and family can cause stress in a marriage, but happily married couples have behaviors that indicate they are still in love.
For instance have you ever watched couples at a restaurant? Some are conversing, laughing and talking to one another while others are sitting in silence. Some couples have constant eye contact, while others are looking at their cell phones or other electronic devices.
On Sunday evenings we often take a walk around the lake. As we are walking hand in hand, we pass other couples who exhibit different body language. In some cases one may be walking in front of the other. We smile when we see another couple holding hands. Maybe other are there for another reason than spending time together. For us, the beauty of the sun going down over the lake and the stillness of the water is romantic. If you see us on the lake or out to dinner, forgive us for acting like we are young and in love!
Check out your body language this week. Are you showing signs of being Young and in Love?