Now that most of our children are grown, I can count on all of my fingers and toes the number of times I have heard the statement "I'm grown now". This is the statement that so easily comes out of the mouths of used to be children once they turn eighteen. The term is fequently stated when they are ready to do something you may not have agreed with when they were seventeen, like getting a tatoo or a piercing God knows where. Or when they want to stay out all night or go somewhere they couldn't before.
What is the real definition of grown up? I used to think it was when a child turned eighteen. Truth is, they may be an adult now, but they are still part of your budget. The next time I hear the term "I'm grown now", I think I'm going to redefine what grown up is. Meaning... grown ups pay their own cell phone bills, buy their own clothes and cook their own meals.
Oh for the days when our children only played dress up. Now dress up is for keeps. Have you ever thought you misplaced an article of clothing or shoes only later to see them walking out the door on your "grown up" child?
As I handle all of the grown ups we have, all I can do is pray. I try to remember that I did my best to "train up a child in the way he should go." Now I am waiting for the promise "and when he is old he will not depart from it". I better get back to praying.
Janice R Love, Author
First Lady, Mom, Stepmom and Divorce Ministry Coach